#17: MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKERS SUCK: STOP LISTENING TO THEM
Let's pretend you're broke, and you heard of a free event that's going to hold at a particular place. At this event, a well known motivational speaker is going to be the presenter.
He'll be sharing insights on how to live a happy life and all that. And hell yeah, you're definitely going to attend it. In preparation for this grand occasion, you manage to iron the only good cloth you have, which, of course, you've been keeping for special occasions.
You even go on to polish your only good shoe whose sole is inclined at an angle of forty-five degrees due to the fact that your leg is a local man Legedez-Benz. You've been wanting to buy another one but because you're dead broke you had no option than to remain patient and keep using it the way it is.
A few days later, the day comes. The day the event is holding. You then trek to the venue just to save some money for lunch hoping that you'll learn a lot from this motivational speaker.
On getting there, you found a corner to dust your shoes so that people won't notice you trekked. But then, something caught your attention. You saw the expensive cars people were alighting from. You saw Benz, Audi, the 2018 Honda Accord and the rest. You then start feeling bad.
You start bemoaning and thinking of how unfair life is. You start thinking of how unfortunate you're to arrive at the occasion with your blessed LEGEDEZ-BENZ V12 BI-TURBO while others are arriving with a real Mercedes-Benz.
That didn't stop you from attending the occasion. With a leap of faith, you summon the courage to go on with your journey whilst trying to discard the thoughts you are having. As you approach the entrance of the hall, you come to the realization that there's a back door in which you can pass through so as to make a low-key entrance.
You now follow the back door because you're somewhat feeling bad about the nature of your life already. You now find a seat to sit. Just when you are about to sit, the presenter picks up the mic and starts off his presentation saying...
If you're comparing your life with others, you re not helping yourself. If you're comparing yourself with others you're setting yourself up for discontentment. If you're comparing yourself with others you won't know your value. Stop it. It's not a good habit. Learn to appreciate what you have. Doing so will help in making your life better. .
Now, he just succeeded in making you feel bad. He made it seem like it's completely your fault.
***
Is he right or wrong?
Well, he is right and at the same time he is partly wrong. Looking closely, you'd realize that he made the whole message sound so simple as if it is something easy to do. He made it SUCK. He made it sound as if not comparing yourself with others is something you can control like a switch that can be turned ON and OFF at anytime.
He didn't tell you why humans like comparing themselves. He ought to have start by telling you that we humans, by nature, are created in such a way that we like comparing our lives with others.
Like damn yeah, it's an intrinsic feature of the human psyche, so get used to it.
Vividly, the presenter didn't tell you that. He probably made you feel like your life is a shitshow and you're really messing up at it and it's completely your fault.
What he should have told you is something slightly better. Something that'll make you understand the fucked up nature of some part of our lives as humans. He should have said...
I know that you like comparing your life with others, and I know it's something we humans are damn good at. Oftentimes we do it without even knowing. But the truth is, you have to stop it. Even though it'll take time, you have to try because if you don't, well, your life is going to be a fucking mess. I'm sure you wouldn't love that. So do something about it. Doing so will help you a lot in living a better life.
How do you see that? Isn't it better? I'm sure if the presenter had said it in this manner, you would have found it more thought-provoking. And that's because this time around he first told you that you're not all that bad as you think, and it's not completely your fault that you like comparing your life with that of others.
See, most motivational speakers give surface motivations. They don't go deep. And you know what? I'm starting to feel somehow about it because it's making lots of people feel really bad about themselves instead of actually feeling good and getting motivated to make a change in their lives.
It's also making people not to fully understand what's been said— It's making people not to understand that some certain things are a basic part of human nature and we are going to suck at it before we eventually get good at it.
I know I said you should stop listening to motivational speakers. I know I said they suck. But no, you shouldn't. Instead, stop listening to the one's who don't go deep in explaining what they are talking about. Listen to those who make you understand the basic human nature with regard to things and then at the same time try to explain things to you from different perspectives.
So what's next?
This is the time in which motivational speakers tell you DO THESE FIVE THINGS AND YOU'LL BE GREAT and then because you believe in them, you go on straight to applying what they said without really analyzing the content.
You should stop that.
Learn to start reading deeply explained concepts. Your affinity to reading or listening to not lengthy posts might be the reason why you aren't really understanding what most motivational speakers write or say. You're so deep in subscribing to most of the short ones out there. Nevertheless, this doesn't mean the short motivational posts aren't good.
What I want you to understand is you have to be careful of the kind of information you feed your mind. Always read and listen with an open mind, however don't just read and apply what someone said, anaylze it first.
Are you getting me? Am I talking sense into you? If yes, kindly drop a comment and tell me what you think about this....amazing piece of shit I wrote.
He'll be sharing insights on how to live a happy life and all that. And hell yeah, you're definitely going to attend it. In preparation for this grand occasion, you manage to iron the only good cloth you have, which, of course, you've been keeping for special occasions.
You even go on to polish your only good shoe whose sole is inclined at an angle of forty-five degrees due to the fact that your leg is a local man Legedez-Benz. You've been wanting to buy another one but because you're dead broke you had no option than to remain patient and keep using it the way it is.
A few days later, the day comes. The day the event is holding. You then trek to the venue just to save some money for lunch hoping that you'll learn a lot from this motivational speaker.
On getting there, you found a corner to dust your shoes so that people won't notice you trekked. But then, something caught your attention. You saw the expensive cars people were alighting from. You saw Benz, Audi, the 2018 Honda Accord and the rest. You then start feeling bad.
You start bemoaning and thinking of how unfair life is. You start thinking of how unfortunate you're to arrive at the occasion with your blessed LEGEDEZ-BENZ V12 BI-TURBO while others are arriving with a real Mercedes-Benz.
That didn't stop you from attending the occasion. With a leap of faith, you summon the courage to go on with your journey whilst trying to discard the thoughts you are having. As you approach the entrance of the hall, you come to the realization that there's a back door in which you can pass through so as to make a low-key entrance.
You now follow the back door because you're somewhat feeling bad about the nature of your life already. You now find a seat to sit. Just when you are about to sit, the presenter picks up the mic and starts off his presentation saying...
If you're comparing your life with others, you re not helping yourself. If you're comparing yourself with others you're setting yourself up for discontentment. If you're comparing yourself with others you won't know your value. Stop it. It's not a good habit. Learn to appreciate what you have. Doing so will help in making your life better. .
Now, he just succeeded in making you feel bad. He made it seem like it's completely your fault.
***
Is he right or wrong?
Well, he is right and at the same time he is partly wrong. Looking closely, you'd realize that he made the whole message sound so simple as if it is something easy to do. He made it SUCK. He made it sound as if not comparing yourself with others is something you can control like a switch that can be turned ON and OFF at anytime.
He didn't tell you why humans like comparing themselves. He ought to have start by telling you that we humans, by nature, are created in such a way that we like comparing our lives with others.
Like damn yeah, it's an intrinsic feature of the human psyche, so get used to it.
Vividly, the presenter didn't tell you that. He probably made you feel like your life is a shitshow and you're really messing up at it and it's completely your fault.
What he should have told you is something slightly better. Something that'll make you understand the fucked up nature of some part of our lives as humans. He should have said...
I know that you like comparing your life with others, and I know it's something we humans are damn good at. Oftentimes we do it without even knowing. But the truth is, you have to stop it. Even though it'll take time, you have to try because if you don't, well, your life is going to be a fucking mess. I'm sure you wouldn't love that. So do something about it. Doing so will help you a lot in living a better life.
How do you see that? Isn't it better? I'm sure if the presenter had said it in this manner, you would have found it more thought-provoking. And that's because this time around he first told you that you're not all that bad as you think, and it's not completely your fault that you like comparing your life with that of others.
See, most motivational speakers give surface motivations. They don't go deep. And you know what? I'm starting to feel somehow about it because it's making lots of people feel really bad about themselves instead of actually feeling good and getting motivated to make a change in their lives.
It's also making people not to fully understand what's been said— It's making people not to understand that some certain things are a basic part of human nature and we are going to suck at it before we eventually get good at it.
I know I said you should stop listening to motivational speakers. I know I said they suck. But no, you shouldn't. Instead, stop listening to the one's who don't go deep in explaining what they are talking about. Listen to those who make you understand the basic human nature with regard to things and then at the same time try to explain things to you from different perspectives.
So what's next?
This is the time in which motivational speakers tell you DO THESE FIVE THINGS AND YOU'LL BE GREAT and then because you believe in them, you go on straight to applying what they said without really analyzing the content.
You should stop that.
Learn to start reading deeply explained concepts. Your affinity to reading or listening to not lengthy posts might be the reason why you aren't really understanding what most motivational speakers write or say. You're so deep in subscribing to most of the short ones out there. Nevertheless, this doesn't mean the short motivational posts aren't good.
What I want you to understand is you have to be careful of the kind of information you feed your mind. Always read and listen with an open mind, however don't just read and apply what someone said, anaylze it first.
Are you getting me? Am I talking sense into you? If yes, kindly drop a comment and tell me what you think about this....amazing piece of shit I wrote.
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